by Robert Flores
If mothers don’t want to stay at home and raise their kids, then who will? Mothers are God-designed as nurturers. If they aren’t nurturing their children during the day, who will? I’m not saying that women can’t work outside the home; I’m saying that when kids are in the picture, every effort should be made for the woman to stay at home. I understand that can’t always be the case (due to financial situations or health reasons). But, ideally, the mother should be at home (or, the father or a grandparent, just not a stranger). It’s sad to me that working women who say, “I could never stay home and raise my kids” also happen to have the nicest cars. I think materialism (rather than freedom) is one of the reasons mothers push to be out of the home.
Another reason is freedom. Mothers long to be free from the screaming, crying, fighting brats. There’s nothing wrong with having a break from the kids. . . but being completely free from your children for their most crucial years is completely selfish. Mother’s jobs are to birth and raise their children. I understand that may feel confining at times. However, it’s the same with men in the workplace. Men also feel confined to their desk, looking out the window, wishing they could escape into the great outdoors. I sometimes think, “Wouldn’t it be great to take my kids to the park right now.” But I know that I need to be at work, providing for my family. I can always take my kids to the park after work. Mothers should also adopt the same thinking. I feel trapped, but at some point I will get a break. Where do the breaks come from? From your husband, from friends, from parents, from church. Pray that God gives you relief from the crazy kids. Husbands, at this point need to step up and give the mother a break. No mother should feel stuck as a “stay-at-home mom”. No mother should feel “trapped” in her own home. There are thousands of topics to teach your children. There are hundreds of places, locally, that can be visited and teach your children about history, creation, science, geography ,etc. The home is the incubator for the leaders of tomorrow. The world is a stay-at-home mom’s playground. The freedom to explore and discover is unprecedented in history. The term stay-at-home moms is a bit of misnomer–they have the world to discover with their children. Children are only small for a little while. Please don’t let this opportunity pass you by.
Another reason is feminism. I don’t think that the Church realizes that feminism has influenced all of our lives, including Christians. Feminism is an evil philosophy. It is straight from Satan’s lie from the Garden of Eden: that women can rule the household. It’s feminism that creates the “want” to be out of the house (as opposed to the “need” which is caused by financial strains). Feminism attacks a woman’s design and fights against her own DNA. Feminism makes life boring as it creates a mother as someone who she was never meant to be. It creates a need inside of woman (via brainwashing) that the home is somehow inferior to the workplace and that she must contribute in that environment instead (rather than her children. It creates an unbiblical desire to stop nurturing her children and go nurture projects in the workplaces. It’s absurd. A mother’s usefulness isn’t defined by projects. It’s defined by the children she’s raising. Doesn’t she want to leave a legacy? Does she not want to pass on her values and imagination and dreams to her children. (not saying a working mother can’t do that but it’s just very difficult to do).
Raising children is the most important legacy any mother could ever hope for in the world. One last reason I think mothers want to abrogate their duty to the home is laziness. Let’s face it: motherhood is hard work. It is much harder than sitting in an office all day long. Children are not projects that can be easily managed, sorted through, and brought to completion. Children are not spreadsheets or PowerPoint presentations. Children are unpredictable brats that need direction. Who’s direction? The mother’s. If the mother won’t raise them, then someone else will– whether it’s the media, their friends, strangers, etc. Children are blank slates that mothers have to invest into (and will reap benefits for the rest of her life). If she denies her duty to God (like Jonah) she will have left behind all the blessings God had in store for her. Raising and teaching children every day is exhausting. But it’s worth it. The home is designed to be the place where children are nurtured. Feminism says that the workplace is easier– you deserve the best (i.e. laziest) job. So it pushes woman into the workplace. Mothers in the workplace – most of the time– lose their relationship with their children along the way. Why? Because they’ve discussed the important things of life with everyone but their own mom. It’s the small conversations with your kids that is molding them into the people they will grow up to be. Those discussions will happen with someone, somewhere. Why shouldn’t it be their own mother? No one else is going to love them like their own mother. The workplace does nothing but provide a roof and food for children (which is the husbands job). Why would a household need both parents absent from the home during the day. It takes sacrifice from both the husband and the wife to raise children. They need a rood (from the husband) but they need love, instruction, emotion, playing, laughter, rebuking, discipline form the mother. Feminism wants freedom from children. Who fills the void? Public education. Feminists are pro-public education because they know someone has to teach their kids– let’s place them in school with a bunch of strangers who will also brainwash them in the feminist ways. And the cycle of discontent continues. If mothers, instead, would embrace their design, their DNA, their genes, they would find true fulfillment in God’s plan for their lives. Feminists, universities, media and the world seek to rob that joy from Mothers.
Proverbs 31 states clearly that women are to work, be resourceful and creative. God wants mothers to for their husbands and children. He wants them to be intelligent and inventive and use their brains. He wants mothers to glorify Him in all that they do:
She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands. (v.13)
She is like the merchants’ ships; she bringeth her food from afar. (v.14)
She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens. (v.15)
She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard. (v.16)
She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms. (v.17)
She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night. (v.18)
She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff. (v.19)
She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy. (v.20)
She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet. (v.21)
She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple. (v.22)
She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant. (v.24)
She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness. (v.27)
Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.(v.28)
It is an exhausting task to be a stay-at-home mother. It is the hardest job in the world. For any woman to look down on another woman who stays at home (and works her butt off) is erroneous. It’s better to serve God in what He has designed than to serve yourself in some area that He has not designed.